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This mini eBook contains information, techniques and tips designed to help you deal with your own psychological issues. It includes:

For those born and bred in the West, healing is usually about the body. Medical doctors verify this by focusing on your physical symptoms when you go to them for help. Some of them may ask about your psychological well-being, as they understand the connection between emotional and physical pain. The latter are on the right track.

Thoughts and emotions are not separate from your body simply because they are not tangible. What connects thoughts, emotions and the body is the nervous system which is electrical. Your body could not function without the millions of electrical impulses that go to and from your brain all of the time even when asleep. You control some of these consciously – picking up a fork, combing your hair etc. Others are unconscious, such as your heartbeat and digestion. Even the unconscious electrical impulses can be controlled or influenced via meditation and other stress relieving techniques.

It is this electricity, the nervous system, or what I would call your essence or energy that needs to change – or transform. This requires that you shift from a negative state of illness, or detrimental thinking and feelings, to a more positive state. Understanding and accepting the interdependence between the ‘bad’ and ‘good’ aspects of an experience, of yourself and life, is what makes you whole – this is how you heal.

The Three Point Therapy Technique (T3) TM

Point 2 – Meaning

Healing, or becoming whole, is more than dealing with one problem at a time. It is about understanding your entire existence. If you know your life’s purpose then your issues are easier to handle. That is, when you make sense of or find meaning in your own life experiences, this in itself is therapeutic. Are you here to help people heal, to make music, tell entertaining stories, to educate, build things, raise children, save the environment? If you know your reason for living letting go is more doable as you will be preoccupied with creating what you were born to do.

Regardless of your individual circumstances, the act of letting go brings about a life change creating a loss which – if perceived as negative by you – leads to grief. You may want to hold onto the old ways or people afraid of the pain involved or the possibility that there is nothing/one else – it may even seem as if you are giving up. However, life is about rebirth and renewal and it will reward you when you let go by bringing in the new. This experience of the new lays the foundation for your self-transformation.

This simple, easy to use self-help guidebook assists you to transform a variety of negative emotions into positive ones. The Chart displaying the emotions consists of twelve main words listed in six pairs as shown below. Negative emotions are in red and positive emotions are in green.

All the pairs, with the exception of the final one, include three related words which give you greater choice when working through an issue. For example, ANGER also has listed underneath it the words frustration, resentment and hatred, while ACTION has awareness, movement and transformation.

There are definitions of all the words used. An example of the meaning of DEPRESSION/FAITH and GRIEF/JOY is shown below. Related words are in a similar color.

DEPRESSION is almost always ANGER turned inward. It is about not getting what you want but instead of externalizing the hurt you hold it in thus experiencing disappointment and disillusionment. This may involve self-pity. If you do not get out of this frame of mind you will most likely experience despair.

Sometimes DEPRESSION is confused with GRIEF because of the heaviness of both of these emotions. GRIEF follows a loss – sadness and sorrow in relation to what/who has been lost. DEPRESSION usually involves self-hatred. Hate is related to ANGER and this is what you are directing at yourself. GUILT might also be related to your self-loathing. This can be quite debilitating so if you reach a stage where you cannot function, get professional assistance.

You heal DEPRESSION by having FAITH. That is, you must trust yourself to take the appropriate ACTION in order to get what you want, by being willing to wait – patience – for it to happen and to believe that all things are possible – hope. FAITH is about trusting God/Universal Energy or your Soul to assist you to fulfill your goals/dreams. Even when these things do not come to pass there are reasons which you may understand at some point in the future or you may not. This is also an aspect of FAITH. As a human being you cannot control everything. However, the way life turns out is often far more beneficial for everyone concerned than anything you could have imagined or created.

GRIEF is about loss. It is a deeper emotion associated to the absence of what you want or love, hence the sorrow and sadness. When you cannot see a future without what/who has been lost this leads to inconsolability. It is almost impossible for you to be comforted or to ‘see the light at the end of the tunnel’.

JOYis what permits you to see the light in the horizon. Even though it can be difficult to experience JOY when in such intense pain, you can start to feel better by having fun. That is, living in the moment by doing enjoyable things, for example drinking a good cup of coffee, eating your favorite meal, watching your favorite movie or taking part in a hobby. These activities will allow you to get in touch with who you really are which creates happiness. This will lead to enthusiasm about life once again thus assisting you to go about getting what you want, which may be very different from before the loss, or by allowing the new to come in replacing what has been lost. The ‘new’ may include a relationship, sense of purpose, job etc.

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