This week, I am going to walk you through my Three-point Therapy Technique (T3) TM, using my DIY Therapy Chart cards – these cards contain positive and negative words which are designed to help us work through emotional issues. Now, if you cannot relate to the words chosen, please use the technique anyway to help resolve psychological conundrums. You may replace my emotional words with your own or use Oracle cards to answer each of the questions or points. I will add my definitions and points from the guide book for each stage of this method.
So, think of an issue that you have been struggling with lately and follow this process:
POINT 1: Cause: What do you believe is the cause or the reason for your negative emotional state?
Answer: Disillusionment – this word is associated to Depression…
“DEPRESSION is almost always ANGER turned inward. It is about not getting what you want but instead of externalizing the hurt you hold it in thus experiencing disappointment and disillusionment. This may involve self-pity. If you do not get out of this frame of mind you will most likely experience despair.”
POINT 2: Meaning: What is the lesson or purpose of this emotion?
Answer: Action – this word is part of a group of words that helps relieve anger, which is the cause of depression (read the paragraph above and see the connection to disillusionment). The words in italics below are related to the meaning of the word Action in this context.
“ACTION is needed in order to get what you want even though what you tried previously was unsuccessful. This requires developing awareness of what did not work and then moving forward by trying something else – movement. Taking such action to attain what you need usually leads to transformation as you are creating something new in your life and yourself (or allowing for the new by letting go of something that is not working).”
Before we go onto POINT 3, let’s analyze this: We are disillusioned or disappointed about something not working out as we might have wanted. This may be depressing for a while but the way out of that is to take some kind of action. Since we now know what is not effective or necessary anymore, we can look at alternatives (i.e. develop awareness) and move forward in a new direction (i.e. movement and transformation).
POINT 3: Release: Practical steps to help us release the negative emotional state in POINT 1 and to reinforce the positive in POINT 2.
Disillusionment (because it is related to depression which is related to anger, you need to find ways to release your frustration).
- Hit or punch a pillow, punching bag or dummy.
- Smash plates on a brick wall or on the floor the way people do in Greek Taverns (make sure it is safe to do so).
- If you are angry at someone in particular, confront them in person or through a letter.
- Write down what you need to say and burn it.
- Play some angry music (death or heavy metal, hard rock etc) or watch a violent movie(s).
- Think about how to improve your situation.
- Make a list of positive things to do.
- Start with the easiest suggestion on the list.
- Research what you are interested in, if necessary.
- If you need help, ask for it.