When seeking help from health practitioners the expectation is usually that they will be able to ‘fix’ or at least, improve your issue or problem. Of course they are being paid to provide a service but it is not like going to get your nails, or hair done. In these scenarios, you are paying someone to perform a service that you either cannot, or do not want to perform yourself. Therapy, however, is a different kettle of fish and it needs a different approach (learn more here).

Regardless of the type of healer (i.e. physical or psychological) the principle is always the same – they can only accompany you on your healing journey. Physical therapists will do some practical work and in all likelihood advise you on what to do at home, or in your own time. If you do not follow through with these suggestions your health might not improve. One hour a week (even two, or three) of professional consultation, will not be enough to see lasting results. You must do the bulk of the work yourself.

This self-responsibility is even more relevant in relation to psychological therapies because you are dealing with internal, intangible phenomena: thoughts and emotions. These healers may listen to you, offer wisdom and other practical advice about how to change your thinking, or process your feelings but they cannot do this for you – it is impossible on every level imaginable. (There are several reasons why therapy may be ineffective: learn more here.)

So…the next time you seek professional assistance of this variety remember that these people can only offer you guidance and support – the rest is in your hands.