Once upon a time, I had to make some very important decisions in my life. I needed some way to determine how to do it, so I made lists of what I found valuable and not valuable. I will share these lists below. If you want to read the entire article which includes definitions of value and judgments, go here.
My Value Judgments Lists
What has positive value:
- Trustworthiness
- Patience
- Compassion
- Integrity
- Strength
- Self-worth
- Humility
- Sensitivity
- Understanding
- Intelligence
- Loving nature
- Down-to-earth attitude
- Co-operation
- Open-mindedness
- Respect
- Loyalty
- Reliability
- Emotional support
What has negative, neutral, or negligible value (I will not base my decisions on the following criteria for they repulse me, are of no value to me – that is, they don’t matter to me – or, have some value based on certain conditions which I elaborate on in parentheses):
- Arrogance/excessive pride (negative)
- Wealth (neutral)
- Physical attractiveness (neutral)
- Fame, or social status (neutral)
- Avoidance of reality (negative)
- Competitiveness (negative)
- Immaturity (unless it’s a child, or someone with a developmental disability)
- Race/ethnicity (neutral)
- Sexual orientation (neutral)
- Religious, or spiritual beliefs (as long as they do no harm to others and are not being forced on me)
- Choice of clothing, hairstyle, accessories, car driven…”brand” names hold zero interest for me…
The real value of value judgments is that they show you who you are. That’s what writing this article has made very clear to me which will now assist me in making some major life choices. If you are having difficulty making decisions right now, why not give this a try – you may surprise yourself.
Helen
